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We expect its pejorative meaning, but could be your consummate destiny, perfect for your life.

But according to Caroline Myss, destiny is your vehicle: "Fate is a “We”; Destiny is an “I” (Individualism versus the tribe). "I look at my tribe and I say, "I'll take my heart please, you're not going to manage that anymore. I'll decide what I love, who I love, what I don't love, who I'll forgive. I will carve out what is real for me and I'll take that please...I'll have a separation from being a "we" to becoming an "I". This is not an easy journey...no tribe lets go of its own easily. It hurts the tribe to lose a member. A tribe says, "Don't go you're weakening us, don't go because when you change you won't recognize us.  When you come back you'll be different and we don't want you. That's the language of tribal love.  You'll come back and they'll say, "We're not good enough for you...they're warning you, you're going to come back and you'll never feel the same about us."